Red hot bride - deedlit2

As most our blog readers already know by now, my fiancé and I met through a comic convention in San Diego years ago. When we first laid eyes on each other, we were dressed as our favorite characters from the wildly popular Sandman graphic novels created by Neil Gaiman (you may remember him as the writer of the recent “Stardust” movie?). So for our wedding we came up with the idea of donning similar styled dresses and suit but with our own personalities injected in our costumes.

For this reason, I did (and am still doing!) plenty of research about gothic and vintage wedding dresses. In order to personify Death, the elder sister of Dream and the oldest of the 7 Endless siblings, I need to wear black. And black can be rather taboo when it comes to wedding gowns. Fortunately I have this Redhotbrides site to fall back on. The information I gleaned from this website gave me the courage to build my argument in case anyone questioned my decision to not wear WHITE on my wedding day. Honestly, there is no rule saying that us westerners have to wear white on wedding days. I observed that even though Chinese brides are to wear red wedding gowns, they are not averse to wearing modern white dresses on the same day. So why not other colors? Red, pink, purple, magenta… the choices are endless but I am still leaning towards a very gothic and eye catching black!

I happened to stumble upon this black spider web dress that is perfect for the wedding! Here is the description for the gown which in my opinion is a completely apt work of art!

Multi layered tulle netted skirt and corseted basque style dress with glistening sequins and beaded pattern, it truely is a stunner! Built in underskirt to give same effect as photo. Has removable privacy panel at back. Front boning for added shaping and support.

Now with the right amount of makeup and some tweaks done to my hair, ta-da, I’ll be ready to turn heads at my wedding!

I finally found out how much Norman spent on our engagement rings and I was completely bowled over. Not because it was too exorbitant but because it was TOO beautiful to be this cheap! I mean, it looked at least THREE TIMES pricier than the price tag he mentioned. I’m not going to say how much it actually cost him but I must say that I am amazed at the price, astounded because my fiance did not overspend on a piece of jewelry which in my opinion, need not cost an arm and a leg. I mean what good will a pair of expensive wedding bands do? What are couples trying to prove when they splurge excessively on two tiny pieces of jewelry when they cannot afford it? I say put the money to better use like a much deserved honeymoon or a downpayment on your first home together… =)

So for our wedding bands, we decided to design our own wedding rings according to:

Material: We decided to splurge a wee bit and get a long lasting type of metal that will remain beautiful for a long, long while… PLATINUM!

Width of band: 4mm is just right for us, thank you very much!

Finishing: Just plain polished is the perfect finishing for us because we simply love its reflective surface.

Design: This is the most crucial element. We decided to go with plain after coming to the conclusion that an inlaid gold band won’t be able to show off the true beauty of the platinum material.

Gems: Norman wants to omit the diamond from his wedding band and proposed that we design one with a square princess cut diamond for me. I love how he could read my mind! More than one diamond is simply unnecessary and I think just a single solitary diamond is beautiful!

After deciding all this, we went to a reputable wedding jewelry store. There, we saw the most tempting display of wedding bands but we stuck to our decision of having our custom made designed wedding rings. I did spot an antique white gold ring that I fell in love with just for a moment but decided against getting it. I drop an awful lot of hints on Norman so that he’ll get the idea and buy me that ring for our first anniversary! ;-)

After the initial excitement has died down (and after I carefully kept my prized Neil Gaiman’s first edition and autographed Sandman tome lest I find a hole in it!), we mulled over how we are going to tell everyone, especially my parents.

First we told Norman’s parents. Naturally, being the easy going people that they are, they had no qualms over his son marrying me. His mom was so happy because she feels like she is gaining a daughter (he is the only child, a son at that!) and excitedly went to the den to call every single relatives and friends in her phone book.

Then came the crucial part. I told Mom that Norman will be coming over to dinner and that very night itself, she dished up a stupendous spread. In the midst of Norman handing over the bowl of gravy to my Dad, I couldn’t take it much longer and blurted out: “We’ve got something to say.” Norman stopped midair, then remembered that the bowl was made from breakable material and hastily put it down before he dropped it. Everyone was silent and all eyes were on us.

“Norman asked me to marry him and I said yes.”

I said it in a hurry and in one breath, eyes closed. After ten seconds, I reopened them again, expecting disapproving looks from my parents. Instead, all we got were chuckles and relieved sighs.

“Was that it? Boy, we thought you were PREGNANT or something!” was what Dad said.

I rolled my eyes and joined in the laughter.

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After that we told our friends and all of them are pretty glad that we are getting married. “Have lots of geek kids will ya?” Lol. Our “geek” friends even threw us a surprise “Happy Engagement” party and everyone came dressed as their favorite comic book / sci-fi / superhero / supervillain. Now that’s a funny sight!

Every bride’s story about how her hubby-to-be proposed is special in her own way. Today I want to tell you how MY beau proposed but I am not going to sugar coat it. In fact, I admit it’s a rather unconventional way to propose but hey I am an unconventional girl and I LOVE unconventional methods!

One night after we’ve been dating for two years (approximately 24 months since the day we met at the comic convention, imagine that!), he told me that he had a surprise for me. We went to the little cafe across the street from where the convention building stood, and that was where we first had our dinner after the convention was over.

We ordered the usual stuff. Me and my seafood platter and he ordered his plate of prime ribs. After dessert came (apple pie and gelato!) he unceremoniously handed me a huge package. I opened it eagerly and saw that it was an autographed FIRST EDITION book of Neil Gaiman’s Sandman, leather bound in perfection! I screamed at him delightedly and was about to leap into his arms when I opened it and saw a HUGE GAPING HOLE IN THE MIDST OF THE BOOK!

Enraged I stared open mouthed at the book, not knowing how to react. I saw him chuckle from the corner of my eye and that was when I finally noticed it…

… a tiny velvet box in the middle of the gaping hole.

I slowly took it out and opened the box. Sure enough, a slim platinum ring with a tiny diamond sits in place. I looked up and said: “YES I do but did you HAVE to cut the book???”

He laughed out so loud (partly due to joy that I accepted his proposal and mostly out of amusement) and explained that the book was fake. He took out the REAL book afterwards, all in one piece and unscathed

Helloes everyone! I’m new here and you may call me Dee Dee. And no, I do not have a brother named Dexter! I get that quite a lot especially from kids who watch too much Cartoon Network! Lol…

So I’ve recently gotten engaged and the W-Day (Wedding Day) is set to be held in about SIX months from now. I know it seems like an eternity to most people but to me, it’s as though as my life is one whole movie that’s being fast-forwarded! Then again, I’m not going to have a fancy wedding, just a small cozy affair so I’m going to plan the entire event at my own pace and will try not to be stressed out like other brides are months before their wedding.

Want to know how we met? Actually most people don’t but this is my blog and I want to tell it anyway!

How we met: Norman and I are comic book geeks and we met at where else, but at a comic book convention! It was my third year attending the huge event and I was all dressed up as Death, a character from the best selling graphic novel series “The Sandman” written by (again) best selling author Neil Gaiman. The moment I set eyes on him, I burst out laughing. He was all dressed up as Dream, aka Sandman the titular character. Dream is also Death’s brother, and they are two of the Endless siblings that consist of Dream, Death, Delirium, Desire, Destiny, Destruction, and Despair.

He looked like a convincing Dream except that he was eating a hot dog with chili smeared across his face. I laughed at him and told him in no way will Dream “attack” a hot dog like that. From then on we exchanged playful banters and explored the convention together. We looked very convincing as Dream and Death, and lots of fans of the Sandman graphic novels actually took photos of us.

Later, he asked me out (I was very flustered!) and his exact words were: “I promise you it won’t be in_cestuous but will you please be my date tonight?”

Lol!